1. May 1997 - 15 month old dAugusthter gets very ill when Father is away on business.
• Mother leaves child at home unattended and goes out drinking and gambling with her Mother.
• Returns to find terminally ill baby, takes two days before she takes her to Children’s Hospital Oakland (CHO).
• CHO contacts Father by email informs to get home ASAP.
2. June 1998 - Daughter succumbs to illness and dies.
3. September 1998 - Father suffers massive stroke due to stress of losing daughter and abusive treatment by Mother. 
• While in hospital doctors inform Mother Father is not likely to survive. 
• Mother tells Father he will not survive and she wants to be married and that it needs to happen very soon.
• Mother is aware of Father’s reluctance to get married but insists it should not matter to him if he is deceased.
4. December 1998 – Under significant duress Father reluctantly agrees to marry and set date in June 1999
5. January 1999 - Mother continues abuse of Father and moves wedding up to January 1999 in one week’s time.
6. January 1999 - Wedding takes place at Father’s home. 
• On wedding weekend Father’s Father has brain hemorrhage and dies.
• Mother insists wedding goes on anyway.
• Wedding takes place under solemn circumstances. 
• Mother invites her Mother and sister and they stay up playing cards and drinking all night on wedding night.
7. November 1999 - Second son is born.
• Mother continues a pattern and practice of abusing Father who is fully disabled and wheelchair bound.
8. January 2000 - Mother moves into guest quarters in Father’s home
• All intimacy stops
• Mother is often out until 3AM drinking and gambling.
• She often comes home very drunk, stumbling and staggering and being violent and belligerent.  
• Full Separation 11 months after marriage.
9. February 2000 - Father asks Mother to move out and find a job and a place to live.
• Mother states she will move out when Father buys her, her own house in Alamo.
• Father says NO. 
• Mother refuses to move and starts vandalizing Father’s home, stealing money, stealing assets and unauthorized use of motor vehicles.
10. April 2000 - Mother is in Father’s home office and assaults him repeatedly in front of minor child.
11. May 2000 - Father’s business collapses and no more income stream.
12. January 2001 - Father overhears conversation between Mother and her sister
• How they are going to “Stroke Him Out”
• Discuss in detail how they are going to work together to maintain high stress levels
• This while doctor’s orders were to keep stress to a minimum
• They had one thing in mind…
13. March 2001- Mother crashes family minivan into school gate in AM after a night of drinking
• Minor child reports to Father.
• Vehicle is severely damaged
• Mother refuses to file police report or repair car.
14. May 2001 - Son tells Father that Mother took cash and little blue book from Father’s office. 
• Father discovers $2,500.00 in travel cash and passport are missing.
• Father confronts Mother about missing items
• Mother denies everything
• Son states I saw you take it why are you lying.
• Father reports missing passport to US Secret Service.
15. August 2001 - Mother steals Father’s car and goes out drinking with friends
• Father reports to police.
• Police find Mother and request car returned immediately.
• Mother waits a few hours then returns car.
16. September 2001 - Passport mysteriously reappears on office desk in plain sight. 
• Mother claims she took passport to prevent Father from going on business trip to Europe.
17. October-December 2001 - Mother continues abusive patterns toward Father, including tampering with sleep. 
• Mother puts salt in Father’s bed when he is sleeping to create sleep deprivation. 
• Father confronts Mother and she admits to act of sleep deprivation
• Mother tells Father “I am going to Stroke you Out and take everything.”
• Mother continues to use many tactics to increase Father’s stress level
18. MAY 2002 - Mother tampers with dosage for Father’s life medications
• Adding enough blood thinners to give Father another stroke.
• Father discovers the changes and confronts Mother who indicates doctor instructed her to do so.
• Father contacts Dr. and finds out that Dr. said all is fine no changes warranted in meds dosage. 
• Dr indicates this is attempted murder and should be reported to police.
19. December 2002 - Mother is working on various projects and making a large mess all over the house
• Including leaving sharp razor blades on dining room floor where children playing could cut their feet. 
• Father confronts Mother about this issue - Mother assaults Father in front of minor child and is arrested for Domestic Violence by county sheriff.
• Mother calls Father after 6 hours in county jail and states that she does not like being there
• She has asked all her relatives and friends and no one will bail her out
• Would Father please bail her out
• She promised to behave like a good wife and also repay bail.
• Mother meets Future Boyfriend in jail. 
• Bail bondsman informs Father that Mother met with known criminal while in jail with known background and he provides background to Father.
20. April 2003 - Mother moves out of Father’s home without informing Father.
• Father comes home from physical therapy and finds moving trucks at his home. 
• Father instructs Mother to leave kids and do not take anything that doesn’t belong to her. 
• Mother takes kids and steals precious artwork and other valuables.
• Mother also vandalizes home by blocking sinks and turning on water in upstairs guest bath
• She also marks walls with marker
• She disposes of cat litter in the carpeted loft. 
• Mother refuses to give Father correct moving address. 
• Mother moves to Danville and moves in with aforementioned criminal (Boyfriend) who she met in jail 
• In one week Mother’s criminal attorney personally serves dissolution papers to Father at his home in Alamo
• Mother’s attorney is threatening; tells Father he is going to take his home.
21. May 2003 – Mother filed for Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)
22. May 2003 – Father requested mutual TRO’s – Berkow granted mutual TRO’s
23. May 2003 – Minor child informs Father that Mother is having sex parties at her apartment with her boyfriend and 3 of his friends
• He saw Mother performing fellatio on Boyfriend & his friends
• Mother punched him in the stomach for watching.
• Father informs Danville Police
• Police interview minor child and Mother and drop any further action.
24. July 2003 - Father hires well know Contra Costa County Attorney
25. July 2003 - Berkow orders custody evaluation
• Custody Evaluator performs an incomplete and grossly inaccurate evaluation
• Refusing to interview
• Extended family members
• Teachers at school
• All persons who spend much time with children.
• Custody Evaluator visits Father’s home and complains that “a disabled person should not live this well too much space for one person.”
26. May-December 2003 - Children indicate
• Lots of alcohol and pill consumption
• Drinking and driving at Mother’s home
27. December 2003 - Father recognizing that his attorney was not looking out for Father’s and children’s best interest; terminates the relationship with attorney.
28. March 2004 - Berkow
• Orders therapy for Father and eldest son.
• Denies Father’s extensive evidence of criminal acts by Mother’s Boyfriend.
29. April 2004 - Father reports stolen property to Police and DA
• DA instructs to look for more evidence
• Father discovers Mother has been forging checks from Father’s bank account, $150,000.00 taken.
• Once again nothing was done
30. May 2004 - Father hires a prominent forensic psychologist at great expense $25K
• To challenge the accuracy of Custody Evaluator’s evaluation report.  
• Berkow does not allow this expert to present his findings
31. May 2004 - Mother files civil case against Father, PD, County Jail, City of Danville, bail bonds, insurance company for false arrest for domestic violence.
32. August 2004 - Court orders vocational evaluation paid for both parties by Father with stipulation Mother will reimburse. 
• Vocational evaluator determines Father is permanently disabled as ordered by Federal Judge in June 2000
• Mother is capable but unwilling to secure employment.
• Custody Evaluation awards
• Eldest child to Mother & career criminal Boyfriend living in her home
• Father was given limited supervised visitation to Eldest son.
• Awards youngest son to Father with the following rationale:
• The eldest son looks like mother
• The youngest son looks like father
• Evaluator indicated father may abuse eldest son because of resemblance to mother
• (Note: Father has no history of violence however Mother has multiple arrests for domestic violence.)
33. September 2004 - Minor’s counsel appointed.
• Father is now Pro Per. 
• Court continues to abuse privileges and denies request by Father for change of visitation.
• Father refuses to pay Custody Evaluator for incomplete and incompetent custody evaluation
• Court orders Custody Evaluator to do thorough criminal background check of Mother’s Boyfriend.
34. December 2004/January 2005 – Mother refuses to pay her share of children’s Medical expenses
• Berkow sanctions Father for filing motions to have Mother pay her share according to earlier court order. 
• Father refuses to pay sanctions or fees to Mother’s Attorney.
35. September 2005 - Mother removes son from high school and enrolls him in Venture school without informing Father.
• Mother continues to disregard joint legal custody rules
• Mother is instructed by her attorney to continue to disobey rules and claim ignorance.
36. July - December 2005  Numerous motions filed by Father to change custody
• Court never listens, continues abusing Father’s Pro per rights
• Berkow does not allow Father to present his evidence or case in court she relies only on information provided by
• Minor’s counsel
• Opposing counsel
• Father realizes minor’s counsel is Biased
• Taking direction from Mother & Boyfriend
• Is in continuous Ex-Parte communications with opposing counsel.
•  Father points this out to Berkow and requests dismissal and disbarment proceedings for minor’s counsel.
• Berkow denies motion and orders Father to pay Custody Evaluator.
• Father refuses and files ethics violation charges against Custody to CA Board of Psychology (BoP). 
• BoP refuses to take any action against Custody Evaluator. 
37. January 2006 - Civil case DISMISSAL ENTERED WITH PREJUDICE AS TO ENTIRE ACTION.  City And insurance company to pay $25,000 to Mother due to incorrect paperwork upon admittance to county jail.
38. Aprilil 2005 - Court orders
• Father to sell off his boat 
• Gives Minivan owned by Father to Mother without payment for transfer of ownership. 
39. December 2005 - August 2006 - Numerous motions filed by Father to change custody
• Court never listens
• Court continues abusing Father’s  Pro Per rights
• Berkow does not allow Father to present his evidence or case in court always relies on minor’s counsel or opposing counsel 
• Multiple requests for Income and Expense declaration (I&E) from opposing and minor’s counsel
• Father provides current I&E
• Mother files perjured I&E.
40. June 2006 - Eldest son
• Calls minor’s counsel
• Sends emails counsel
• Writes letter minor’s counsel
• Minors counsel ignores all correspondence
• Son writes directly to Berkow
• Berkow ignores his requests for change of custody and visitation
• Without talking with child; Minor’s Counsel files motion that Father tortured son into writing emails and letters by withholding food and sleep. 
• Father files motion on behalf of son.
41. July 2006 - Court mediator interviews children
• Children confirm Minor’s Counsel perjury
• Father brings perjury to attention of court
• Berkow denies any actions against Minor’s Counsel
42. August 2006 - Custody and visitation increased for Father.  Father now has every other weekend and Wednesdays with both children.
43. September 2006 - August 2007 - Father continues to refuse to pay Custody Evaluator and Minor’s Counsel on grounds of refusing to pay for incompetence and perjury.
44. August 2007 - Minor’s counsel files false motion about Father abusing children.
• Eldest son denies all claims in minor’s counsel’s OSC as indicted by mediator.
45. September 2007 - Father files charges of perjury with County DA. 
• County DA does not want to take on Family Court 730 experts.
46. October 2007 - Eldest Son is detained at school for possession of controlled substance.
• Mother refuses to come to school and pick up son
• Police call Father
• Father picks-up son  
• Son was in possession of Marijuana and opiates
• Drugs were provided  by Mother or Boyfriend
• Also Mother obtained prescription for ADHD meds without informing Father for both children.
47. November 2007 - Father is denied all visitation and custody with youngest child and allowed limited visitation with eldest son.
• Father is once again ordered to therapy as is youngest son.
48. November 2007 - January 2008 - Mother continues to obstruct visitation with both children at all times.
49. December 2008 - Father secures non-professional supervisor
• Mother refuses to meet with supervisor
• Continues to obstruct visitation.
50. January 2008 - Minor’s Counsel retires and leaves state.

Question:

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